With all the technological advancements, one species has kept pace in evolution. And that is our lovely woman – bold enough to take on the world, beautiful inside-out and changing the world with her equal strides in any domain. She is a modern woman shouldering the financial aspects with absolute equality while juggling motherhood, kids, relationships, and whatnot. Her love life and relationships also need a reboot with her evolution.
The Modern Woman: 5 Things That She Wants In A Relationship
1. Empathy
Women are generally very empathetic and want the same trait in their partners. They want a partner who is not only romantic but a compassionate listener as well. When a woman is venting out, she is not looking for logical solutions(in all probability, she knows it already). Instead, she seeks a shoulder to lean on and an empathic partner to listen to her.
2. Conscious and Clear Communication
Your mental and emotional state shouldn’t be a mystery to solve for your partner. Women are adept at picking up unspoken clues about their partner, but what makes a relationship tick is conscious and clear communication. It would help to communicate what you are going through and what help/support your partner expects. This is particularly important in intimacy, finances, the decision to have children, and your relationship.
Understand your partner’s mental world to forge a genuine connection with them.
3. No One is Perfect: Don’t be Defensive
It is not easy for some people to admit they were wrong, which is one of the main reasons some relationships never work out despite having excellent compatibility. Defensive behavior is very harmful. Some of us have been wired that way since childhood, so you must know this trait, acknowledge it, understand the root cause, and communicate your true feelings to your partner.
4. My Me-Time
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you are joined at the hip 24X7. Sure, you will do a lot of activities, but you shouldn’t be together all the time. If your partner wants your alone time, they are being insecure. DoPrioritize your me-time as an individual for your self-growth.
5. Consent and its various forms
Every woman wants to feel safe, so she would also like to be with a man who respects her boundaries. It is best to have a clear dialogue about sexual consent with your partner, what you are comfortable with, what you can explore, and what is totally out of bounds.
Women Vs. Men: The Differences In How They Perceive Love
Even though we are discussing equality as part of the United Nations Theme for International Women’s Day (IWD), “DigitALL: Innovation and technology for gender equality,” the hard truth is that men and women are unequal as specific attributes go. However, this doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have equal rights.
Here are a few differences in how they perceive love:
- Initiating Sex
As per WebMD, in 60% of couples, men initiated sex more than women. On the other hand, a woman in love is less likely to start sex. They like to express their love by becoming more accommodating of their partner.
- What Are You Looking For in this Relationship
Men are looking for passion, thrill, and some fun in the relationship from Day 1, whereas women look for emotional stability. Both aspects are equally important and must be balanced firmly to build a rock-solid relationship.
- Romance and Commitment
Psychology Today says men generally fall in love faster and are the first to say, “I love you.” However, their “I love you” doesn’t imply their commitment to the relationship. They will have dozens of doubts and rethink their choice numerous times before committing.
On the other hand, women take longer to say “I love you,” but once they do, they are more committed than men.
Women and Men: How to Navigate the Differences
There are critical differences between both genders, and that too, in all domains – not just love and relationships. And differences are nuanced; they are not good or bad. Men and women are wired differently, so don’t judge your partner. To have a healthy relationship, you must accept, acknowledge, and respect differences.
And when you both start living together as a couple, these differences come to the forefront.
Here are the significant landmines to navigate:
- Trying To Change Your Partner: No One Likes It
This is the number one complaint from the men’s side. They always feel their girlfriend/fiancee/wife is trying to change them.
How to Navigate:
If there are certain aspects of your partner’s life where you think you can make a difference and hence, make them a better person, then set up a date, make them feel comfortable, and then talk about it. Don’t force the issue repeatedly.
- Not Listening To Your Partner’s Rant: Just Be Present And Listen
This is the number one complaint from the women’s side. Men assume the woman is telling them her issues because she wants advice/answers. They want empathy from the man in their lives but get logical solutions instead.
How to Navigate:
Listen attentively to your partner, hold her hand, and let them vent it out. You should offer solutions only if you are asked to do so. If you feel that you have a piece of excellent advice, only provide it when she has calmed down and is more receptive.
- Housework: Women Shoulder All the Responsibility
Men instinctively do not like housework and will try to avoid it at all costs. On the other hand, for women, a clean house is a manifestation of a warm nest where they can nurture their children.
How to Navigate:
Split up the housework and responsibilities per your interest levels. Don’t expect others to read your mind and do their part.
- Advising Men: A Literal Battlefield
Even though men offer a woman the maximum amount of advice, they do not like to listen when someone advises them. It affronts their masculinity, making them feel insecure and non-competent.
How to Navigate: A woman should offer advice to her man only when he asks for it explicitly. She should discuss the logical solution rather than focus on the problem.
- Emotional Requirements: Who Needs What?
Women need a lot of understanding, validation, caring, and reassurance in their lives. And their primary complaint in this domain is that their emotional requirements must be met.
On the other hand, men are independent, but they do need approval, acceptance, admiration, and encouragement.
How to Navigate:
Make your woman feel special by caring about her emotional needs to be more motivated.
Make the man in your life feel on top of the world by ensuring he is secure. Men are more motivated when they feel needed, so they appreciate their hard work.
I hope this article helps you have a beautiful love life and build a rock-solid foundation for your ever-lasting relationship with the man/woman of your dreams.
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