“Change is the only constant in life!”
Life and life changes are very seasonal and transitional. Life challenges us to change, to move on with sudden happenings like the death of a loved one, significant milestones like a promotion or transfer to a new city/state/country, or something circumstantial and traumatic like the Covid19 outbreak, retirement, or something that was simmering and was due for a long time – like heartbreak and divorce.
Whatever life throws at you, you must soldier on and take it by the horns. And how do you do that? Well, we at TheMidLife are here to help you out:
- Reflect
Life has thrown you an unexpected curveball. Before you start to stress over it, fret over it or make any plans to go about it, take a breather and pause.
Reflect on the change:
- What are the pros and cons of it?
- Can you avoid it?
- If you can’t avoid it, then what’s the best course of action?
- What do you need to achieve it?
- What does your gut instinct tell you?
- Take Your Time
As they say, “Haste Makes Waste,” sudden decisions and changes are hardly the best course of action, especially in stressful times. Live with the loss you are facing, sleep over it, formulate a plan, analyze it, and then come up with the best course of action to start over your life.
- Anything and Everything is Possible
When you start over in a sad, traumatic, and dark time, it is natural to doubt yourself. But everything is possible. You can always start over, in a new career, in a new relationship, in a new city/country, and be successful at it, too.
To ensure success, you can manifest it; you can do affirmations daily or even start a gratitude journal to look at all the things that are still beautiful in these dark times.
Did you know that this year, United Nations Theme for International Women’s Day (IWD) is “DigitALL: Innovation and technology for gender equality.” You may have felt subdued in your past life because of your gender, your partner was overbearing, or your boss was a scheming idiot who always put you down, but remember that you are down to none. You are equal to your partner/boss and have equal rights. If they have short-changed, don’t forget to explore legal options to get your rightful due!
- Forgive and Forget
There is no point in holding on to your past, which has led you to this point in life. Let it go. Yes, it will be tough for you to let it go. But there is no other option. You cant find strings tying you back to the past. Cut those strings and free yourself. It will take tears, time, and a lot of patience and maturity, but you will be better off.
- What Is Your Buried Dream?
Did you sacrifice your dreams because your spouse didn’t like them, and now you are divorced? Did you get into a lucrative corporate job because of the money but hated every minute, and now in the recession, you are laid off? Sit, breathe, reflect, and reach out to your heart and soul to see if you have any hidden dreams. Is this the perfect time to pursue them? As it is, you have absolutely nothing to lose!
- What Are Your Goals?
With a shift in your life, your dreams, aspirations, and goals about life must have also changed. So, what are your goals in life today?
- Accountability: Mentor/Coach & Your Support System
Now that you know your hidden dreams and goals in life, you are already moving in the right direction. The next step is to ensure that you keep moving steadily; for that, you need a support system and a coach/mentor. They will guide, stimulate, push, and challenge you so that your next milestone in life is your best yet!
It’s easy to set lofty goals and be ambitious in life, but every once in your life, you will falter here and there. And that is where your support system will kick in – who can be your peers/friends/colleagues/family?
They can shake out the overwhelming part of this phase of your journey and ensure you are on the right track.
- The Courage to Change:
Despite the pain, it is often easier to remain in a status quo position than take the courage to change your life just because it is very challenging. Committing to a new and difficult next phase of life takes courage, self-awareness, guts, and bravery.
- Just Do It: One Small Step At A Time
It is easy to agree to change, find a new goal, and chart out a plan, but the real test is implementation. That is the hardest step. Have faith and take the first step – a tiny step in the right direction that will lead you to your life’s best approach and path!
- Future: Welcome It With Open Arms
Only some get a second chance to make their life better and more meaningful. So, embrace the future with wide open arms! New options are in front of you; the past is in the past, the future is wide open, a fresh start is staring at you in the face, and the world is your oyster!
No matter what happened in your past life, at this very moment, in this current phase of your life – only you are in charge of your life. You can steer your life as you please and in whichever direction you like!
You can choose the best way forward and have a happily ever after!
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